Unleashing the Power Within: Overcoming the Impact of Negative Words
Have you ever wondered why, within the comfort of our homes, we exude confidence, yet in professional or social settings, we often shrink ourselves to fit perceived expectations? The moment someone tells us we're not good enough, too short, too tall, too loud, too quiet, not smart enough, we start believing those words, relinquishing our true selves and abandoning our purpose in this world.
Reflecting on the childhood rhyme "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me," it's ironic how the energy invested in ignoring naysayers and maintaining a resilient posture can be mentally and physically draining in adulthood. The impact of words becomes all too real, as witnessed in the film "The Color Purple." The character Mister's verbal abuse had a profound effect on Celie, keeping her trapped in an abusive relationship. Celie, consumed by the belief that she was ugly, stupid, slow, and lazy, endured over a decade of suffering until encounters with empowering figures like Sofia and Shug Avery helped her find the strength to stand up for herself.
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The company we keep plays a pivotal role in shaping our self-perception. While self-motivation is crucial in overcoming adversity, there are times when we need our tribe to provide the positive reinforcement necessary to combat negativity. As we mature, it becomes essential to be intentional about the people we surround ourselves with. If someone consistently takes from our cup without replenishing it, it might be time to bid them farewell.
Being a confident woman is a journey, and intentional relationships are key. While fortunate to have grown up in a supportive family, I, too, face slumps in adulthood. During such moments, reaching out to friends who know just what to say can be a game-changer. If spending time with someone leaves you feeling drained, it's time for self-reflection. Evaluate if that person is meant to be in your life. If they make your life harder, have the courage to say goodbye.
Take stock of your friendships and acquaintances. If certain individuals are draining your positive energy, it's okay to wish them well and walk away. Friends may grow apart, and that's a natural part of life. Forcing a relationship against negative signs only leads to personal losses.
This post is dedicated to all the "Celies" out there. May you find the courage to reclaim your voice and strength, recognizing that you are beautiful, smart, and strong. Embrace the power within you and surround yourself with those who uplift and support your journey.
Live You. Love You
Maria LyVonne
